You want to be a leader within your business and raise children who can do the same or better for themselves. The problem is that family time can get lost while working 16-hour workdays.
It’s normal, but not healthy. Consider this: You only get so much time to enjoy your time with your children. They’ll be grown up in a flash and will have lives all their own. You’ve missed so much if you didn’t take part. Finding ways to include your children in your daily life is vital, even if you’re working full-time for your business. As I reflect on my time with my children, there are four strategies I have used in my parenting to help them become responsible, successful (and entrepreneurial!) adults.
1. Keep your word
Do what you promise to do. Do not make empty threats or promise that you aren’t going to keep. Stability is vital to children. They don’t want to be uncertain about how their dad or mom will react in new situations. They shouldn’t be told that they will spend Saturday in there if their room isn’t cleaned. This will also penalize you! Only threaten penalties that you can enforce. It’s sometimes better not to risk, but be consistent and give a predictable outcome. Your children will be more comfortable speaking honestly and respectfully with you if they know what you expect as a parent. It provides stability for them and teaches them to keep their word even when it is hard.
You must also be reliable in your time with family members. Make sure to make family dinner a priority. It’s worth making an effort to meet your family for dinner, so you have an hour of uninterrupted time to catch up. Make the most of your daily time together. It teaches children integrity and honor by being present for dinner. They’ll see that you have kept your promises. You can also offer predictability to your children.
2. These can be taken to work
You can’t let your business take you away from your family. Let your children be more involved in your business. They can help you push a broom or clean up tables. If they’re capable of handling more responsibility, let them pack orders or enter data. They can start this early in their lives and will be able to handle a variety of jobs by the time that they graduate high school.
What is the best way to find out “What do I want to be when I grow up?” If you haven’t tried anything yet, then how can you answer the question, “What do I want to be when my time comes?” My mom owned a hair salon. When I was young, I worked with her to set appointments and sell products. It was an experience that taught me how to interact with people. I did the exact same for my children, and they are all successful now. They never fail. But they do so because there are at most ten other jobs they could do. And they don’t hesitate to fail.
3. They should also be given responsibilities beyond work
To force a child to do something other than his or her passion is like forcing him or her into a round hole. Instead, let the children discover their passions by giving them responsibility around your home. You can let them wash the car or change the tire. While they might not be able to do it exactly the way you prefer, the main point is that they get to experience the process and allow their natural talents to emerge. If they enjoy the skill, they will request to do it again the next morning.
Your child’s desire to learn new skills will grow if you encourage it. After you have identified what your child is passionate about, let them dig in. You might find that they enjoy helping to bag groceries. If so, ask the manager if they would consider hiring your child. No problem if your child doesn’t enjoy it after a month. Each skill will help your child discover what they like to do and how best to do it.
4. Encourage them to learn how valuable it is to lend their efforts
While it’s great to get kids involved in the workforce, this is only half. Reward them for their contribution. This will teach them that their work is valued, and they can receive rewards in many forms. These could include money and trips to the supermarket or promises to take part in their favorite activities. With predictability in mind, the most important thing for you as parents is to keep your promise, even if it seems impossible.
Consider my granddaughter as an example. She is a massive fan of riding my motorcycle. After a few days of bad behavior, I promised her that she would ride my bike if they behaved adequately for the day. She was on the right track for the three following days. Although I was tired at the end of the third day, she kept her promise. Even if your kid buys a toy for $3 that breaks, it will still be a token of appreciation. The value of investments is something that children learn early on and grow into good investment habits.
The bottom line
You can give your children the tools that they need to succeed as quickly as you are able. Although they may make mistakes, every failure will lead to tremendous success. They will continue to work hard to achieve their goals. Children learn these lessons early on, and they are more likely to keep them in mind as they grow up and continue their education.
You shouldn’t just give these tools to your kids. Make sure you take the time to show your children how to use these tools. Set an example. Next, please encourage them to learn from you. Even if it seems inconvenient or that things could be done faster if you did them yourself.
If your child dishes the dishes but is still dirty, let them rewash them when you’re not there. Allow your child to complete the task if it takes you too long to change a tire. Children who feel that they are allowed and encouraged to contribute will become more willing and able to make a difference in society as adults. Children will succeed in any career they choose if you promote their contributions and give them opportunities to help others.